I have been married to a wonderful man for 11 years. I married at the age of 18 and was a virgin when I married. Our first few years together we had sex everyday. For the past few years I have had a lot of medical problems(endometriosis) and last November had a hysterectomy. I have had absolutely no interest in sex for the past 2-3 years. As you are aware, this has caused many problems for us. Last June my husband started talking to some girl on the internet and I didn't find out about it until he was calling me by her name while we were in bed asleep. He said he was just talking to her about our problems. I thought it was over. Then in November of 99 I found her picture in his truck along with several condoms. He said she lived in another state but I had to wonder. Now I really am depressed, feel worthless, insecure and still have no desire for sex. Is it now coming from the internet affair or what? I love my husband very much but I no longer make him happy without sex.. He keeps telling me it will get better, but he's very sexual and I don't know how long he will wait. Help!
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