My boyfriend and I have had a rocky relationship since we moved in together. Before we lived together we used to communicate more, we were both happier. I'm not sure what happened, but as a result of this we have had many hurtful and damaging fights. I say 'damaging' because I feel that he has slowly done away with the love I felt for him. He has said things and done things that I can't seem to get over. I find myself resentful and angry most of the time, and I don't want to become bitter. How can I stop resenting and move on? I feel that a lot of the issues that have caused this have not had a resolution, I need closure but don't know how to get it because my boyfriend is so uncommunicative and defensive that if I bring up a past issue he accuses me of wanting to start a fight. Please help. I want to try and recover what I felt in the beginning of this relationship, I feel it has soured, but maybe it can be saved if only I can let some things go. Otherwise, I want to move on. (P.S. He hasn't been unfaithful or physically abusive, but he has said many hurtful things, and broken many promises.)
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