I am 26 and have been in a relationship faithfully for 7 years. Completely unforeseen, she writes me a letter stating that she is confused and cares for me dearly, but doesn't feel it is fair for me to wait while she sorts things out. She left this letter on my side of the bed that we shared for the past two years for me to find when I came home from work. We have spoken very little since and all the times it has been me to contact her. This happened just over a month ago and I have tried to "move on," but I cannot because I now realize just how deeply I love her. We shared some rough times together and I feel towards the end it was those times and stress of both of us establishing careers that caused her doubt. I keep thinking that if I could just talk to her face to face, that we could iron things out. Would this be the wise thing to do? She has been shy and rather sheltered since I've known her. I think she is acting out (i.e. belly piercing, drinking, cursing, crazy different sex all in the last few months). Your advise would help a lot. She responds with concern when I call and she wants to "stay friends."
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