was this a contolling relationship, and why would I put up with it?
Thu, Dec 27th 2007
Dear Doctor Schwartz, I was just dumped after a three year long distance relationship. He told me so many things that made me feel special. Wants to marry me , have kids, not to worry about anything, that he is doing this for us... ( he is a professional athlete) he said all of this but never made an effort to see me after the season or and even went as far as saying that he won\'t be able to see me at all this off season due to his training. All in all I feel that I was controlled over the phone. I was not to get upset about him breaking his promises , I was just supposed to understand his job! My question is, was this contolling and why did I put up with it? Is there something I need to work on within myself?
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