I've been with a great (seemingly) wonderful guy now for about 5 months. We're seemingly very compatible and he treats me like a queen. I've had a high level of confidence with this relationship and trust and respect that I haven't ever experienced before. He's really into me; and expresses and communicates it fully; the relationship is quite serious. However, my curiosity has gotten the best of me at times--like I can't trust that something and someone so wonderful is happening to me. So, I went snooping in some of his closets and stumbled upon a "coffee table" book of erotic, female nude photography. It's well done; but I can't get it out of my mind...does this mean something bad? It makes me question him...can I trust him...it's almost sort of a mental cheating thing....I have no idea in what context the book belongs to him....but I'm feeling nervous about the fact that he owns it...should I be concerned? I feel as though in general I am "looking" for bad things so that it can validate that I shouldn't deserve love or find love. Of course he has no idea I found it. I have no way of bringing it up with him. What to do? I'm trying to act normal but can't get this out of my head. help. much thanks, Anne
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